Is your kid being harassed by bullies?
He or she may be, and you might not even
Dear fellow Parents,
Let me tell you about a kid I know named Tyler. Tyler was usually
enthusiastic and happy. His cheery disposition and bright smile went
with him wherever he went. But when he began 4th grade, his parents
began to notice some changes.
Suddenly, Tyler was becoming more and more withdrawn. He often seemed
uneasy, and less sure of himself than ever before. In 3rd grade, Tyler
was always eager to get outside to play after school. Weekends were
happily spent in family activities. But now, Tyler stayed around the
house, keeping to himself. He seemed reluctant to talk about friends,
school or much of anything else. Tyler’s parents didn’t know what to
make of it...but they knew something wasn’t right. And, as you might
imagine, they were alarmed. A call to the school teacher was made.
Tyler’s teacher, Mrs. Phillips, said, as if mom and dad should have
known about it all along, “he’s probably upset about Sam. Sam has been
giving Tyler a hard time for quite a while now.” So there it was.
TYLER HAS A BULLY PROBLEM
Most parents have found their child in this situation before. As a
parent, you can’t help but feel angry...bewildered...and totally unsure
of what to do.
What I'm about to tell you next will seem kind of hard to understand,
but if you think back to when you were a kid, and recall how small you
felt, and how big the world seemed, perhaps you can remember.
KIDS WITH BULLY PROBLEMS FEEL ASHAMED
Are you aware that most kids who are being bothered by bullies don’t
tell their parents? They just “suffer in silence.”
Because they feel embarrassed, they usually don’t tell anybody. Not
their parents, not their friends, not the people at school.
You can imagine what suffering from this type of harassment is doing to
their self esteem...and all the while, you don’t even know there is a
For many kids, this is the first ‘grown up’ problem they ever encounter.
And they keep the whole disturbing thing on their own young,
And, even if you eventually do find out about it---
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?
Chances are, you feel just about as unsure as Tyler does.
Maybe you will call Sam's parent, and talk the situation over with them?
Good luck. You see, there’s a reason WHY Sam is a bully. And when you
eventually call his parents, you will probably see what the reason is.
Most likely, Sam's parents will be defensive and uncooperative.
Will you call the school? Probably, but remember, school officials get
these calls all the time. Most teachers and administrators would like to
help...but they don’t have the answers either.
They will probably just remind you that if Tyler should try to defend
himself, he will be kicked out of school, right alongside the kid who is
the cause of the entire problem!
You might encourage Tyler to stand up for himself...to defend himself.
But you and I both know that Tyler is probably not a match for the
bully. And even if he was, what good will getting him expelled do?
SO, YOU DO WHAT PARENTS USUALLY DO.
You tell Tyler to avoid Sam. And you unwittingly set into motion a
series of events that will have Tyler running and hiding from trouble,
feeling like a victim...feelings that could very well follow him for the
rest of his life.
YOU LOSE, EITHER WAY.
And so, of course, does Tyler. Believe me, I understand how you are
feeling. After all, I’m a parent too, and I remember how I felt when my
parents told me to handle these disturbing bully problems myself.
NOW, READ CAREFULLY, I’M GOING TO TELL YOU A
If you understand what I'm about to tell you, you will have the key to
resolving this entire frustrating situation.
Some kids don’t get picked on at all. That’s right, some kids don’t get
picked on at all! They don’t pick on other kids either. They are free to
enjoy themselves, to be themselves...and it wouldn’t even occur to a
bully to give them a hard time.
WHAT I CAN DO FOR YOU?
Its pretty simple, really. I'm going to take your kid out of the group
of kids that get picked on, and put him or her in the group of kids that
doesn’t get picked on.
And I’m going to do it without turning your nice, sweet kid into one of
those ‘tough guys.’ That’s a big claim, isn’t it? After all, if I can
really do what I say, not only will this solve a sticky problem for you,
it will place your child, once again, on the road to a level of self
esteem that will make them unstoppable. What can I do for you? I
guarantee the answers will surprise you. Now, you may want to first try
some of the alternative ‘strategies’ I’ve listed above, but I suspect
you already have, and are just about fed up with having your kid pushed
So don’t wait to get your child enrolled at TNT. You’ve already seen how
far I can take your child in just a few minutes—think of how far I can
take them in a few months.
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FIND YOUR POWER,